Thursday, 12 May 2016
Do You Know How to Accept a Compliment?
When was the last time you received a compliment? Maybe someone commented on a Facebook picture? Or someone stopped you in a bar because they loved your dress or shoes? Maybe you were praised for a work project or piece of writing? Or possibly a member of your family let you know how happy you make them?
Now think about the way in which you reacted to this compliment, If you're reading this post then it is pretty likely that you did one of the following...
1. Answered with another compliment
Complimenter: "Oh wow, you look amazing!"
You: "So do you!"
2. Changed the subject
Complimenter: "You really made me smile this morning"
You: "Well, I'd had the morning from hell. The cat was sick on the dog and the kids nearly blew the house up"
3. Laughed it off
Complimenter: "You know, you have really beautiful eyes"
You: "Really?! Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha ha ha. Ha"
4. Played it down
Complimenter: "I love that top, it really suits you"
You: "Oh this? It was only £5 in Primark!"
You know you've done it.
We all have.
But today, it stops!
Today we turn a new page and begin a new chapter towards feeling better and more confident. And big results always start with very little steps. This is just one of those steps.
Now, I know I am going to make this sound really easy. And I honestly know it isn't, but neither is it that hard when you really think about it.
So the next time you receive a compliment, whether it's online or face-to-face and whether it's someone you know or a stranger, I want you to simply listen to the compliment, take a deep breath, and just say... Thank You.
Two little words. Really rather simple. But not usually the first thing that comes out of our mouths in these situations. But receiving a compliment should never be anything other than a lovely experience. It's not an awkward inconvenience, it's an actual gift. That person has seen or felt something so good about you that they feel compelled to share it. They are literally giving you a gift.
So imagine that those words are wrapped up in beautiful sparkling paper, and that the complimenter is handing you a gift. You wouldn't dream of taking a present out of someone's hand without saying Thank You now would you?
So why do it with a compliment? It makes no sense when you think about it does it?
Let this be a little challenge to you. No matter what person or what context, next time you receive a compliment, just say thank you.
And don't forget to let me know how you get on! It'll make you feel great I promise! And keep practising...
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Until next time, stay beautiful!